church

This week we talked about the structure of the church, and how not everyone sees the Church the same way.For starters the whole woman in the church discussion,This can go one way or another, whether they should or shouldn't speak.Now at first I couldn't really understand this passage,I know that in the first days of mankind Eve had deceived Adam into eating the apple,hence God doesn't want further deceptions and misleadings in the Church.How ever men can deceive and be deceived just as much as woman.As the conversation went on it kind of made me think this is situational.In the the passage of Abraham and sacrificing Issac.It teaches everyone to have faith in God,but it doesn't require everyone to sacrifice their children.While God may doesn't want the church to stray from his teachings, there may have been a certain woman,women the verses in 1 Timothy had been directed to. With that said I feel s tough woman should be given the opportunity to speak and run churches.All authority comes from God which is passed down to whoever he chooses.Now in terms of what the church actually looks like depends of what you feel will best help your spiritual grown and relationship with God.
1.a building for public Christian worship.
2.public worship of God or a religious service in such a building:to attend church regularly.
3.(sometimes initial capital letter) the whole body of Christian believers; Christendom.
4.(sometimes initial capital letter) any division of this body professing the same creed and,acknowledging the same ecclesiastical authority; a Christian denomination:
the Methodist Church.
5.that part of the whole Christian body, or of a particular denomination, belonging to the same city, country, nation, etc.
6.a body of Christians worshiping in a particular building or constituting one congregation:
She is a member of this church.
7.ecclesiastical organization, power, and affairs, as distinguished from the state:
separation of church and state; The missionary went wherever the church sent him.
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These are definitions of Church in the dictionary.
What church means to people could be anything.It could be the very thing they have to remain sane.It could be a place of knowledge and understanding. It could be a place to worship the God that has created and saved us. It  could be the center of of town where the community comes together as one.
What I wonder is do you need a Chapel or designated building to do so. Is there a difference to singing along to Skillet,Lecrae,TobyMac,etc. compared to hymns in unison in church.A gathering place with other Christians and others who would like to learn about the bible to further understand it.If it is anywhere other than a church would it not be considered church. This what I believe believe, what do you believe?

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I can't decide on this issue and to be honest it is really confusing , as Calvinists o make a lot of great point s to prove their theory, yet I don't Necessarily agrees with the end result. In predestination there is insecurity ,because all men/women have been created in the image of God,and all men have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.It is not by the amount of good (works) or evil(sin) that we have contributed to society ,but by the grace of God that we can be forgiven and saved. So if we are equal in those three ways than what does God think if predestination exists when he chooses who will be saved, and who will be forsaken.This uncertainty makes me question if I should witness to others knowing that it is God's decision has already be decided and, all I would be accomplishing is a false sense of hope if he/she was unfortunate to not be chosen. Or wonder if my friends and the people I care about arrive in the kingdom and I am left behind. This I know is selfish because it is God's will and not mine, but I worry now that in his plan I will not play a part in it, and how and why if we all are created equal than why will chose some and cast others aside .I just don't understand how that would be just.